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Husband wants the attention I give our baby. Hax readers give advice.

She works 60-plus-hour weeks, and her husband wants to know why their baby gets all her attention when she gets home.

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May 8, 2024 at 3:00 p.m. EDT
Illustration by Nick Galifianakis for The Washington Post
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We asked readers to channel their inner Carolyn Hax and answer this question. Some of the best responses are below.

Dear Carolyn: I am very fortunate to have a great but demanding job, mostly awesome husband and a healthy 2-year-old son. I am the breadwinner, and I work 60-plus-hour weeks, and my husband works 20ish-hour weeks. He gets to spend so much more time with our son than I do, and when I do get some free time, I want to spend it with my baby. But my husband has started getting more and more jealous of the baby. He says things like, “Why don’t you hold me like you hold him,” “Why don’t you run up to me when I come home like you do to him,” or “Why do you find it cute when he farts but gross when I fart.”