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Carolyn Hax: Parent worries ‘beautiful’ 4-year-old hears too much about looks

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April 23, 2024 at 12:00 a.m. EDT
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Adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: My daughter is 4. She is funny, loves singing and gymnastics, and cares deeply for her family and dog. She is also very into things being “beautiful” — especially herself.

For some context, she was scouted to be a model in infancy, which I did not want her to do. She sometimes has strangers comment on her looks in public places. My family comments on her looks, usually out of earshot but not always.