Dear Amy, I’m a 45-year-old woman, married to my wife for five years. My issue is my 21-year-old son, who lives with us. He’s a good kid but he’s now unemployed (for four months) and spends his days playing video games.
My son is very book smart, had a full ride to a prestigious university, but only stayed for a year and a half. He recently applied for the police academy, but he never really follows through with anything. He also dropped out of the fire academy — because he was bored. He was working as a forklift operator while in school. He’s always done very well in school, but he’s lazy. I’m a nurse and his dad is an over-the-road truck driver who just had another son with his younger wife. I’m always trying to get my ex-husband to motivate him.