When a man starts to dislike you unscrupulously, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he has an affair, but at least he doesn’t love you that much anymore.
Isn’t that what a man is like? When he loves you, even your shortcomings are different; when he doesn’t love you, even your advantages are mediocre and tacky.
If you don’t love someone, you will feel all kinds of disgust. When a man shows these symptoms, women should pay attention!
01 Constantly picking on you over little things
There is a saying: “There is no better person than the person next to you, and there is no better person than the person lying next to you.”
It may be difficult for us to see a stranger clearly on the surface, but the person next to you is different. Your husband has changed his mind and dislikes you. A woman can find clues as long as she pays a little attention.
A very typical detail is that a man keeps picking on you over little things, or even looking for trouble for nothing.
When you cook, he thinks your cooking isn’t delicious; when you do housework, he thinks you don’t clean it well.
If you don’t put on makeup, he thinks you’re slovenly; if you put on makeup, he thinks you spend money randomly.
If you are gentle, he thinks you are clingy and unindependent; if you are cold, he thinks you have a straight face all day long.
Not only that, you will find that he becomes very emotional, like a firecracker, and gets angry with you at the smallest thing.
He also has no patience or tolerance at all.
“When a man doesn’t love you, everything you do is wrong, your crying is wrong, your silence is wrong, living and breathing is wrong, even dying is wrong.”
There is no doubt that he just doesn’t love you anymore.
If he doesn’t love you anymore, he will dislike you and be picky about you in every possible way.
02 Unconsciously comparing you to others
“Look at how others are doing, and then look at you.”
“Can you learn from your sister-in-law? She is so virtuous.”
“We are both women, but the difference is so big.”
“She is beautiful, but you don’t even put on makeup, you look sloppy all day long.”
Are the above words familiar?
If you are a couple who usually hurt each other, then these words are harmless and can make you get along more harmoniously.
However, if your husband has never been like this before, but suddenly one day starts to compare you with others unconsciously, then it means that he has begun to dislike you.
Because without comparison, there is no harm. With comparison, there will be a lot of dissatisfaction and dislike.
Especially the sudden and subconscious comparison shows that this is what he thinks in his heart.
Knee-jerk reactions cannot deceive anyone. Even a man who knows how to hide himself cannot control his subconscious reactions.
03 He doesn’t want to have much communication with you
If a man dislikes you, there will be another obvious manifestation: he refuses to have emotional and physical communication with you, and only communicates with you in a transactional manner.
What is transactional communication?
This is a very streamlined and efficient way of communication, without any personal opinions or emotions, and is often used at work.
When men and women get along, there is no emotional flow in the communication between the two, and it is as cold as a work report.
“Check your child’s homework.”
“Hey, where did you put my clothes?”
“Wash these shoes for me. I’ll wear them in two days.”
To him, you are more like a nanny, an emotionless tool.
You ask him what’s wrong, but he avoids talking; you want to get close to him, but he finds various reasons to refuse; even if you make a big fuss, he pretends not to notice.
The only contact you have with him is the old man, the children, and a bunch of miscellaneous and trivial housework.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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