Looking for a threesome position that’s easy, versatile, and gives everyone an equally good time? Behold, the Eiffel Tower sex position. Originally a MMF position that involved dudes high-fiving (I know, so cringe), it’s evolved into a super customizable position that works with any gender/body part combo.
“Penetration doesn’t even have to be involved,” says sexologist Lilith Foxx, a relationship educator and inclusivity consultant. “Partners can engage in all oral or manual stimulation (or some combination of it all!) and can incorporate toys, BDSM, and kink. All parties involved can stimulate each other—it doesn’t have to be only one person getting all the attention the entire time!”
The basic structure of the Eiffel Tower looks like one person in the middle on all fours, performing oral on a second person who's kneeling upright. A third kneels behind to penetrate the middle person, and the two people on their knees hold hands over the middle. But you can take that structure and do with it what you please! “Just ensure that all members' pleasure is prioritized, not just the two creating the top of the tower,” says relationship and sex therapist Nikquan Lewis.
For the best experience for all, communicate your needs and boundaries before getting naked. “It’s important that everyone talks about what they're into and what they're not before things heat up. This way, everyone is on the same page and feels good about the experience. In a threesome, everyone has a role to play, and making sure to tailor the session to fit everyone's fantasies and comfort levels can really elevate the whole experience,” says Hail Groo, historian of gender and sexuality, and brand ambassador for Wicked Sensual Care.
Choose your partner(s) with care (there are apps for that), practice safe sex, and make sure there’s enthusiastic consent from all parties throughout. “Always remember, you can say no or disengage from the experience at any point in time, even after the experience has been initiated. If you have any partners making you feel bad for not moving forward, that is a red flag,” says Dolly Ferraiuolo, a licensed therapist specializing in sexual health and wellness.
“The main goal should always be to keep it fun, inclusive, and safe for everyone involved,” says Groo. Ready for some of that? Round up some sexy friends and try these Eiffel Tower sex positions.
The Classic Eiffel Tower
If you’re the person in the middle, make sure the classic Eiffel Tower is about you instead of just your body parts. Communicate clearly to ensure your pleasure is being prioritized and chose partners who you know will respect your boundaries. Then strap in (perhaps literally?) and enjoy. “Being sandwiched like that by two men can be extremely pleasurable for the woman,” says Inka Winter, a director of erotic films for women at ForPlayFilms. If you’d like to incorporate the “classic” high-five style, see the photo above for reference. But you can also just…exorcise the bro vibe entirely and have them place their hands on your shoulders and hips. Or, as Winter says, “What would make it a real Eiffel Tower position would be the two penetrating partners kissing each other!” Just an idea!
Triple Female Eiffel Tower
Working with three vulvas and no penis? No prob. Grab a strap-on and you’re good to go. "I love the triple-female Eiffel Tower because it fosters a deep connection among all participants, blending intimacy with physical pleasure. It's empowering and exhilarating to see everyone so involved, especially with the flexibility that a strap-on or hands can provide,” says Groo. “When using a strap on or manual stimulation, using a high-quality lube is crucial.”
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Triple Penetration Eiffel Tower
Give your middle person three kinds of penetration via their mouth, vagina and bum by adding a butt toy. “This variation amplifies stimulation and can be deeply gratifying for the middle participant, providing intense sensations from multiple areas simultaneously,” says Groo. “Lube is always important, but especially when incorporating toys and multiple points of penetration, an extra-thick gel lube is recommended.” (If everyone wants a plug, you can get sets of three different sizes for butt plug thriftiness.)
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Tag Team Eiffel Tower
Go ahead and switch that tower up. Try having the middle person turn around to give oral to the back person and either get oral or penetration from the other end. Or, do a sort of volleyball rotation where each person is in one spot, then moves on the next so everyone gets a chance at each place. Adjust as needed with strap-ons, toys or lubed up hands. (Gender-neutral toys give you more options.)
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The Tower of Power
The person in the middle can be the active participant in receiving the penetration, instead of remaining stationary, says Foxx. To do this, the receiver backs their hips (or mouth) onto the givers to receive penetration, while the givers remain stationary. Want even more control? Hand a vibrator to the person behind you and press against it as you please.
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The Collapsed Eiffel Tower
If you have mobility limitations, iffy knees, or just want to lie town, turn the Eiffel Tower on its side. “The base partner rolls onto their side and the two outside partners lay instead of standing or kneeling,” says Ferraiuolo. An edible lube will make each end extra tasty.
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Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
