.
Transcript provided by YouTube. Slightly edited with AI.
An Invitation
Before we delve into the video, I want to inform you about a significant free event happening on January 23rd. It’s called “First Principles for Getting to Commitment,” and I’m hosting it live. Thousands have already signed up, and you have the chance to join too. If you’re struggling with commitment in dating and finding yourself stuck with casual partners, this event is for you. Learn what you need to know to find genuine commitment. Visit loveiftraining.com to join for free.
When They Invest Right Before Breaking Up
A member of the Love Life Club posed an intriguing question: why do men continue investing in a relationship if they plan to break up? This led to a discussion about the disparity between actions and intentions. For instance, buying gifts or planning dates but then abruptly ending the relationship. What’s the logic behind this? Do such gestures hold any real significance, or do we assign too much value to them?
Many can relate to the confusion caused by meaningful actions preceding a breakup. Whether it’s a romantic trip, a thoughtful gift, or heartfelt words, why do people engage in such behaviors if they don’t genuinely care? One reason is the differing meanings we attach to actions. While we interpret these gestures as signs of commitment, they might mean something entirely different to the other person.
It’s crucial to assess whether the relationship is progressing in various dimensions or merely superficially. Are lavish gifts and poetic language masking a lack of genuine investment? Often, people engage in grand gestures to “make the sale” without considering if they genuinely want the relationship.
In a relationship context, meaningful actions preceding a breakup reflect irresponsibility and a lack of consideration for the other person’s feelings. While hurtful, such behaviors can serve as a wake-up call, highlighting the other person’s lack of emotional maturity and consideration.
Paradoxically, these experiences can help in getting over someone. Recognizing the other person’s carelessness and lack of foresight can be a deterrent from further involvement. It’s a realization that dodging a bullet might be better than enduring further heartache.
“Be Where Your Feet Are”
In navigating relationships, it’s essential to stay grounded in the present moment rather than getting carried away with future possibilities. Celebrate the relationship’s current stage while acknowledging that there’s still progress to be made. Being present allows for a more realistic assessment of the relationship’s trajectory.
Feel free to share your thoughts on this video and how it resonated with your experiences. Reflecting on these insights can better equip you for future relationship dynamics. And if you enjoyed this video, check out the related content for further exploration.
—
This post was previously published on YouTube.
Blog → https://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/ Facebook → https://facebook.com/CoachMatthewHussey Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/thematthewh… Twitter → https://twitter.com/matthewhussey ▼ Connect with Stephen ▼ Youtube → https://bit.ly/StephenHusseyYoutube Instagram → http://bit.ly/StephenHusseyIG
***
You Might Also Like These From The Good Men Project
Compliments Men Want to Hear More Often | Relationships Aren’t Easy, But They’re Worth It | The One Thing Men Want More Than Sex | ..A Man’s Kiss Tells You Everything |
Join The Good Men Project as a Premium Member today.
All Premium Members get to view The Good Men Project with NO ADS.
A $50 annual membership gives you an all access pass. You can be a part of every call, group, class and community.
A $25 annual membership gives you access to one class, one Social Interest group and our online communities.
A $12 annual membership gives you access to our Friday calls with the publisher, our online community.
Register New Account
Need more info? A complete list of benefits is here.
—
Photo credit: unsplash