People don’t hide anything anymore. Every time I log onto one of my social media accounts, someone is announcing or hinting at something. A baby, a new job, a new car, a gift, everything is public.
As someone who strongly believes in the spiritual evil eye, I’m unsure as to why anyone would want to publicly announce a huge blessing to the world when even your friends and family can be secretly jealous of you and wish you the worst behind your back, but I digress. This is all normal now, apparently.
There is one particular trend I noticed throughout 2023 and 2024 so far… Has anyone else noticed everyone is getting married lately?
Someone who I follow on Instagram uploaded an image of her friend being proposed to on the street. They said yes, congratulations to them.
The next day, she attended a wedding as a bridesmaid for a different friend. Yesterday, she uploaded an image of her engagement ring as she is now getting married herself. A few hours ago, she uploaded a photo of someone else getting proposed to.
Congratulations to all of them, but my question is, was this a collaborative agreement between a friendship group? Surely this cannot be a coincidence?
I can count on both hands the amount of people I know who have engagement rings on their left hands. And before you start accusing me of people being jealous, yes, I am still single and it does suck, but jealousy is not the case here.
Watching everyone getting engaged on social media is just a constant reminder that I still have teddy bears filling half of my double bed and no one is fighting over the duvet covers with me.
Watching everyone getting engaged on social media is just another social pressure on my young mind, alongside needing to buy a house, having to earn 100k a year in my job and try my hardest to make it to the Forbes Under 30 list (two years left to go).
It feels like there’s a clock ticking in the back of my mind and I know my other single friends feel this way too, male and female. There is an invisible deadline for when men should get on one knee and vows should be exchanged. Who is going to be next? Who is going to be the lucky one?
I’ll enjoy single life while it lasts because I know full well once I do have a significant other, I’ll be reflecting on the days when I was single and didn’t have to consider another human in my day-to-day decisions. Now is my time to build a solid pathway for myself so I don’t have to rely on anyone else to add anything to it. ‘Fill your own cup’ is the correct phrase here. Lest we forget that once that person is gone, the assets also vanish.
Although I am looking forward to the day when single life does end. I’ve already planned my wedding, but most females have this sorted by the age of 10.
While the path to love may be straightforward for some and a complete mess for others, it’s important to remember that being single does not equate to being incomplete. Love, in all its forms, is not bound by time or societal expectations. Whether it’s found in a romantic relationship, friendships, or the love we have for ourselves, it’s still something worth having.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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