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Carolyn Hax chat: I was the other woman. Can I befriend the ex-wife who didn’t know?

Advice columnist Carolyn Hax answers your questions about the strange train we call life.

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May 17, 2024 at 12:00 p.m. EDT

Most Fridays, advice columnist Carolyn Hax takes your comments and questions. Carolyn has hosted this chat since 1998, answering your wide-ranging questions about life, family, relationships and more. Some questions may be adapted into full columns.

This week’s live chat is over, but you can read a transcript from the discussion below. Carolyn’s next live chat is at 12 p.m. on June 7 and you can submit questions here. You can also submit questions for her column by emailing tellme@washpost.com.

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