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22 Beginner BDSM Toys to Explore the World of Kink

These sexcessories are perfect for folks who are new to BDSM and curious about all the (amazing) ways it can feel.

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Contrary to what some may think, you don’t need a whole dungeon set-up or spendy leather accessories to dip your toes into the world of kink. In fact, if you’re curious about it but not yet committed, there are plenty of non-intimidating BDSM toys for beginners that are budget-friendly and simple enough to use and understand. And because we’re so committed to your pleasure, we’ve rounded up some of our faves below that range in price points and functions. Once you get the hang of them, you’ll be able to better discern whether or not you want to level up to something a little more pro-level, or keep at it with the equally-satisfying-but-lighter sensations these sexcessories have to offer.

One important thing to remember before kicking off your Lite Kink™ journey: BDSM—which stands for Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/submission, and Sadism/Masochism—should be taken seriously. It’s truly all about communication and consent. Make sure you’re having open and honest conversations with your partner before investing in any sort of gear, much less practicing it IRL. It’s also not for everyone! Don’t feel like you have to be a natural at it or like it has to feel good. It might not, and that’s also okay! Ease into it with a partner you trust, keep the lines of communication open, and don’t be afraid to set boundaries and vocalize when you want to try something else or stop altogether. Establish a safe word, negotiate what’s going to go down ahead of time, and prioritize aftercare when you’re finished, so you can both ease back into reality slowly.

Our top picks for the best BDSM toys of 2024:

Once you’re ready, go forth and peruse! And don't forget to keep scrolling for all the expert advice on how to choose the best BDSM sex toys for you, how to discuss BDSM safety with your partner, and more good stuff.

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best nipple clamps

Lovehoney Tease Me Nipple Clamps

Tease Me Nipple Clamps

Pros

  • Features silicone tips for added comfort
  • Easily adjustable with tweezer-like clamp

Cons

  • Great for nipple-play novices but perhaps not for the first time you ever try nipple action. Experiment with pinching first!

New to nipple play? These are the best beginner tweezer clamps to help you begin your journey, trust. The “tweezer” on each end is tipped in soft silicone for comfort (you may find pain to be pleasurable, but open scratches and cuts are usually best avoided), and there’s a slider on each clamp that allows you to easily adjust the tightness.

Glowing Customer Review: "Overall, these are great for beginners and others alike. For the price you can’t beat it—they’re relatively easy to put on and adjust and definitely can deliver quite the pinch. I have one nipple that’s slightly inverted, and I was still able to utilize these—[I] just couldn’t tug on it quite as hard. Super cute and the little heart charm is a nice addition."

2
best nipple suckers

Lovehoney Perfect Pair Silicone Nipple Suckers

Perfect Pair Silicone Nipple Suckers

Pros

  • Extra-smooth silicone
  • Hands-free stimulation for your nips that's great for beginners

Cons

  • Make sure to use lube with them for a comfier time!

For newbies to nipple play, the ease of use with these silicone nipple squeezers is hard to beat. With their gentle suction, these make a great accessory for those looking to try out nipple stimulation, and the fact that they look totally inconspicuous is also a bonus.

Glowing Customer Review: "Very compact and simple design. Great for warming up and getting nipples hard. Use a little silicone lube around the edge and they suction on very nicely."

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best bondage bar

Purple Reins 20-Inch Spreader Bar

20-Inch Spreader Bar

Pros

  • Padded ankle cuffs for added comfort
  • Central o-ring facilitates different types of restraints

Cons

  • Some reviewers say 20 inches weren't long enough for them—probably better for shorter users!

A great spreader bar option for beginners, this nylon-covered metal bar measures 20 inches and features foam-lined ankle cuffs for supreeeeme comfort. Though wrist cuffs aren't included, this bar does have a central O-ring so you can attach your own wrist cuffs, collar, or other restraint.

Glowing Customer Review: "Me and my partner absolutely love this. We found the straps strong, and they didn't come undone when moving around. I loved that there is a ring attached so that I could feed a rope through, which helps with tying to different areas to control movement."

4
best bondage kit

Adam & Eve Eve's Fetish Dreams Beginner Bondage Set

Eve's Fetish Dreams Beginner Bondage Set

Pros

  • Includes four pieces so you can have multiple experiences with one set.
  • Great value for the price.

Cons

  • Some reviewers say the paddle isn't very strong.

Not sure what beginner BDSM toys are right for you? Test out a variety with the help of a beginner bondage kit, like this option from Adam & Eve. It includes a pair of ankle cuffs, a pair of wrist cuffs, a paddle, and a blindfold, so you can try your hand at restraint play, sensory deprivation, spanking, and other fun fantasies.

Glowing Customer Review: "This set is sooo sexy and of high quality. Perfect starter kit for beginners."

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best bondage cuffs

Sportsheets Sex & Mischief Beginner's Handcuffs

Sex & Mischief Beginner's Handcuffs

Pros

  • Easy velcro ties make these cuffs great for beginners.
  • Reviewers say they're soft and comfortable.

Cons

  • No glaring cons—reviewers say these cuffs are an excellent foray into restraint!

IMO, these have everything a good pair of sex handcuffs should, whether you're a newbie or a BDSM pro. Made with Sportsheets' proprietary Velboa material, these cuffs are plenty durable and fully adjustable, thanks to the velcro wrap closures. All the hardware is nickel-free, so folks with allergies don't have to fret, and they're also washable, so you can freshen 'em up after a play sesh.

Glowing Customer Review: "Love these cuffs. Soft and allow a lot of flexibility. Easily hook up to other restraints. If you want to dabble with handcuffs, these are the ones to use! Can't wait for a second set for my mate. Kinky things await!"

6
best paddle

Rouge Garments Paddle

Paddle

Pros

  • Real leather.
  • Leather strap helps with added control of paddle.

Cons

  • A little pricier for an entry-level item.

This paddle is made of real double-sided leather and makes for an excellent addition to your toy chest—especially if you want to experiment with impact play. It's 13 inches long and 3 inches wide, and features a leather strap handle for added control. For people who are new to spanking, make sure to establish consent and engage in a light tap to start, then work your way up to stronger spanks.

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best bondage bar

Bondage Couture Bondage Rope in Black

Bondage Rope in Black

Pros

  • Reviewers love the texture
  • Suitable for both bondage newbies and experienced pros alike

Cons

  • No real cons and literally no real bad reviews so...this is your sign!

Using rope during sex is a form of dominance, and the options with rope play are pretty much endless. This super-soft bondage rope allows you to (safely!) bind up your partner's limbs, and since it's made with 100 percent cotton, it's perfect for people who are sensitive or allergic to jute and hemp.

Glowing Customer Review: "Really happy with this rope! It’s soft enough to be comfortable but still strong and secure. The length works well for different ties, and the black color looks great. It holds knots nicely without digging in too much. Overall, a solid choice!"

8
best sex swing

Sportsheets Door Jam Sex Sling

Door Jam Sex Sling

Pros

  • Easy to set up and only requires a sturdy doorway for setup.
  • Reviewers say it's strong and sturdy.

Cons

  • The maximum "supportable" weight is 325 lbs.

If you’ve ever wanted to try a sex swing but aren’t stoked at the idea of broaching that conversation with a contractor, then consider this over-the-door bondage sex swing! For a little over $40, you can get a removable (read: hideable) contraption that lets you have the best non-bed sex of your life. Reviewers <3 the padded seat to cradle your butt, plus hand grips and stirrup loops, which allow you to get creative with your positions.

Glowing Customer Review: "We love this! The seat is comfortable while allowing maximum access for pleasure. It feels very strong and secure and allows a whole range of movement that we've not been able to achieve before. We're very much looking forward to experimenting with many positions in the future."

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best ball gag

Pipedream Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag Training System

Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag Training System

Pros

  • Includes three sizes of gag balls—small, medium, and large.
  • Reviewers say they're breathable and great for beginners.

Cons

  • Some folks say the quality isn't amazing.

Whether you’re the dominant or submissive one, you’ll want your ball gag user to be comfortable enough to breathe. The holes in this special ball gag training system let you breathe and cut down on the likelihood of drool—plus, it comes with three different-sized ball gags so you can work your way up.

Glowing Customer Review: "I wrestle with a tight jaw. These were great for learning to loosen my jaw. Over time I could go up in size. Great way to get three sizes for the price of one. And very easy to switch out the balls."

10
best bondage game

Lovehoney Hot Knots Beginner's Bondage Game

Hot Knots Beginner's Bondage Game

Pros

  • Excellent for newbies to knot-tying.
  • Includes satin blindfold and two satin ties.

Cons

  • Some reviewers say the cards can be repetitive.

Perfect for inspiring BDSM beginners, this kinky game from Lovehoney includes a satin blindfold, silky restraints, and a deck of cards providing 52 bondage-style prompts for you and a partner to try together.

Glowing Customer Review: "Got this to use with my partner and we both absolutely love it. Great for when things get boring in the bedroom. The cards have some things on there that I never would have thought I would be into. Love them."

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best temperature play bdsm toy

Sex & Mischief Ex's & Oh's Temperature Play Sensory Roller

Ex's & Oh's Temperature Play Sensory Roller

Pros

  • Nickel-free metal.
  • Small to fit all the nooks and crannies for exploration.

Cons

  • No real cons!

Curious about temperature play? You've come (ahem, cum) to the right place. This little roller packs a mighty punch with a gunmetal roller that, when dipped into cold or warm water, adapts to the temperature and delivers heat or cold onto the body. It's small, but perfect for getting into all the nooks and crannies where your body might be craving extra stim.

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best restraint set

Bondage Boutique Bound to Please Under-Mattress Restraint

Bound to Please Under-Mattress Restraint

Pros

  • Suitable for any size bed
  • Latex-free

Cons

  • Some reviewers say the straps are a bit short

If you don’t have a four-poster bed or the time/money to hack your IKEA Malm to look like something out of a sex dungeon, try this under-the-bed restraint kit. Comprised of skin-friendly ankle and arm restraints attached in the back, you put the whole thing under your mattress so the straps can racerback their way around to the front for easy access.

Glowing Customer Review: "These were our first set of bed restraints and we were so impressed by the quality! It's easy to use, feels great for the person being restrained and can be hidden when not in use!"

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13
best flogger

Bellesa Flogger

Flogger

Pros

  • Floggers tend to be less intense than whips, so great for beginners to BDSM.
  • Comes in such a cute lavender color!

Cons

  • Reviewers say it's light and won't cause serious pain, so if that's more your speed, you might want to opt for something stronger.

If you're looking to deliver a lil less tickle and a lil more zing, then check out this affordable vegan leather flogger, which comes with a easy-to-hold handle and 40 agile falls (tails). Unlike a whip, which usually have a single braided tail, floggers tend to have multiple flat tails, so a blow from this bad boy delivers more of a thud than a sting.

Glowing Customer Review: "What an amazing addition to our bedroom this toy has been! This whip is no joke. Don’t be fooled by the gorgeous color—it packs a punch! Lightweight but super well-made and just gorgeous to look at. I would give this 10/5 stars if I could!!"

14
best fetish jewelry

Crave ID Cuffs

ID Cuffs

Pros

  • Sooo luxe.
  • Can easily double as jewelry.

Cons

  • Not super sturdy for more intense play.

Introducing: the winner for Most Chic Bondage Jewelry That Doesn't Actually Look Like Bondage Jewelry. Available in four color and metal combinations, you can wear these bracelets on one wrist like a fancy lil wrist party or use them on both wrists after-hours as a legit cuff system since they're made with body-safe silicone and high-polish stainless steel hardware.

Glowing Customer Review: "When the cuffs arrived, I was in love immediately! They are sleek and sexy. You put them on and you feel powerful. I don’t know if it’s because many don’t know what they are and you have a secret, or if it’s because you know what wearing these can lead to. It’s such an exciting feeling."

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15
best sex pillow

Dame Pillo

Pillo

Pros

  • Comes with a 3-year warranty.
  • Supportive and comfortable!

Cons

  • Some reviewers say the height takes some getting used to.

Ofc, sex pillows don't necessarily have to be used for BDSM (they makes run-of-the-mill vanilla sex even better, too), but if you wanna throw some cuffs and restraints into the mix, the Cosmo-approved Dame Pillo will allow you to feel new sensations in every position. You’ll love that it features grabbable handles and a machine washable outer cover as well as the fact that it’s discreet enough to keep out at all times.

Glowing Customer Review: "My husband and I are not small people and have a tendency to sink into our mattress, making some moves and angles difficult to execute. We’ve been using the Pillo to lift up either his or my pelvis for better access in a bunch of positions. The handles are a great addition!"

16
best collar set

Unbound Harness

Harness

Pros

  • Adjustable.
  • Beginner-friendly.

Cons

  • There are mixed reviews on quality, but for a first-time harness user, it's a great accessory to start experimenting with!

Featuring a detachable patent leather collar and waist and torso straps made with stretchy elastic, this sexy accessory can accommodate a range of body types with ease (and look reeeeally good while doing it). The snaps and metal strap adjusters help you find the perfect fit, and several reviewers have raved about just how comfortable it feels.

Glowing Customer Review: "Every time I see something that is 'one size fits all' I am always IMMEDIATELY pretty sure that it won't fit MY body. This harness was so cute though, so I figured that I'd give it a try! It fits like a glove. So comfortable and makes me feel instantly sexy!"

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17
best clitoral clamp

Lovehoney Tease Me Clit Clamp

Tease Me Clit Clamp

Pros

  • Tweezer design makes it super adjustable.

Cons

  • Might be a little tricky to get the hang of at first.

If you're new to clit clamps and want something for beginners, then try this tweezer-style clamp from Lovehoney. It’s super easy to adjust using the slider, and the ends are coated in soft silicone for comfort. Plus, you can throw in the matching nipple clamps if you're feeling splurgy.

Glowing Customer Review: "Was looking for clamps with easy use and good tips. The silicone is nice and thick and doesn't cause pain, while the clamp gives the perfect amount of pleasure. Holds on to my clit perfectly even when using with toys."

18
best sensation play toy

XR Brands Master Series Transfix Dual Pinwheel

Master Series Transfix Dual Pinwheel

Pros

  • Two wheels that spin 360 degrees.
  • Reviewers say it spins smoothly.

Cons

  • A little on the pricier side for a pinwheel.

While a spiky pinwheel may look a tad intimidating, this device was actually originally developed to test nerve endings, and the long, easy-to-grip handle allows you the freedom to apply pressure as you see fit. It's got 10 rows of sensation spikes and 360-degree dual wheels for sending shivers down your lover's spine.

Glowing Customer Review: "My hubby gifted me this and I was skeptical—it looks a bit scary with all of its sharp spikes. But oh my! The sensations it sparks throughout your body is unlike anything you’ve ever experienced. With the first roll on my arm, all my hair stood up and I instantly got goose bumps. This is a must-have. Foreplay is lit on an entirely different level with this little buddy."

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19
best gag bar

Unbound Bit Gag Bar

Bit Gag Bar

Pros

  • Adjustable and high quality allows for more comfort.
  • Squishy, comfy material.

Cons

  • One reviewer mentioned it's hard to slip the ties back into the bar if you remove for washing.

Similar to a ball gag, a gag bar uses a horizontal bar between the teeth instead of a ball, so it offers a bit more breathability while still keeping one partner's mouth occupied. This option is made with super-soft silicone ideal for sinking your teeth in, as well as velvet ribbon for affixing to your head.

Glowing Customer Review: "Bit is beautiful, from the packaging to the materials. I love that the ties are velvet, and the cobalt blue and gold is a great color combo. It's comfortable, stays in place, and [is] much prettier than anything else I've seen on the market. It's so refreshing to have BDSM gear with feminine/luxe aesthetics in mind."

20
best sex candle

Maude Burn No. 0 Massage Candle

Burn No. 0 Massage Candle

Pros

  • Comes in four different scent options.
  • Reviewers say it melts easier and feels amazing on the skin.

Cons

  • A little pricey for only 4 oz of product.

This candle not only looks super sleek—it serves a ~sexy~ purpose as well. Once the candle heats up, the wax transforms into a massage oil, perfect for teasing your partner and foreplay. And since it's made with jojoba and soybean oils, it's also ultra-hydrating.

Glowing Customer Review: "My man and I went to a cabin and brought this along, and he loved it. The wax melted easily, and as I poured it down his back and started massaging him, the texture was heavenly. It was just the right amount of moisture and not greasy once it dried. I will be purchasing again."

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